Comparison is the Thief of joy

Comparison is the thief of joy. A quote by Theodore Roosevelt.

Why? Because when you compare yourself to others, it is making you believe that you are not good enough, your not doing enough, you aren’t smart, or capable of anything.

It will make you believe you don’t matter.

You will begin to believe it in your head and it will eventually make its way to your heart.

It takes away your joy.

When you compare yourself to someone else, you are putting yourself up to unrealistic goals because you are not that person. Their circumstances and you’re circumstances are totally different.

Even during a pandemic, we still are comparing.

We are comparing our struggles, who has the bigger struggle?

Is it the person that is a single income household and got furloughed from their job for 90 days?

Is it the family of 4, where both parents are trying to work remotely but also teach and entertain two children under 4?

Is it the mom who still has a job but has to figure out how to continue to work but provide for her kids and the same time?

Is it an individual that has an underlying condition, and has no one to help get groceries or other items they my need?

Is it the individual who is dealing with a medical condition that they have to go to the hospital or doctor once a week to have a procedure done?

Is it the nurse that every day living in a world of fear praying she doesn’t contract the Coronavirus?

It doesn’t matter. Everyone’s circumstances are different. We all have different upbringing, different economic status, different education or family environment, the list goes on.

We are all struggling in some way. To compare our situation to others and making judgement calls to whom has the bigger struggle is unfair. We are all struggling and yes, some struggles are worse than others.

The only thing you should compare yourself to is there version of you last week or yesterday or even a month ago.

This is a healthy comparison because then you can determine how to grow.

Humans aren’t hard wired to be grateful.

Humans love to complain....if you worked in customer service or hospitals, you know what I mean.

Gratitude takes work.

Here are 6 ways to be practice gratitude:

1. Don’t be picky, appreciate everything! Gratitude doesn’t mean being grateful for the big things, it’s the little things too.

2. Find gratitude in your challenges - it isn’t just about the positives in your life. It’s about the challenges too. Sometimes thinking about challenges can help you think about what you really are thankful.

3. Practice Mindfulness – Sit down daily and write down 5 to 10 things that you are grateful for. It only takes 8 weeks of gratitude practice for people to showing changed brain patterns.

4. Keeping a gratitude journal

5. Volunteer – Some people have more gratitude when they give back to others in their community. A researcher from the University of PA found that volunteering is the single most reliable way to momentarily increase your well-being.

6. Express yourself – Showing gratitude towards those in your life. Not only does expressing your gratitude for someone make their day a little brighter, but it can do wonders for increasing your own levels of gratitude and happiness in the long run.

So instead of comparing yourself to others be grateful for what you have.

Remember that typically when you are comparing, you are only seeing half the story.

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