Patrice runs a popular Instagram and Facebook page called Survivors of Color.Through her platform, she shares her story, along with supporting, educating, and empowering people of color who’ve experienced sexual violence.
She has taken some time to come on our podcast and blog to share her story, healing and what she hopes for with her platform, Survivors of Color. We openly discuss her story, different type of abuse, including coercion, how her son has played a role in her own healing, and how being intimate and learning how you want to be loved is a beautiful thing and how it has helped her heal and knows it can help others as well.
You saw a problem. What was it and how did you come up with a solution? (If this includes your story please share as much as you are comfortable with).
I am a survivor of sexual & domestic abuse. My experience in a scary relationship and the events following, had led me to create a safe space for BIPOC. I needed a space that allowed me to begin my healing journey.
What impact do you hope to make?
I hope that others get to a place where they are able to love & trust themselves again. I want others to know that it’s possible to feel sexy again, or that it’s possible to enjoy sex again. It’s possible to fall in love with the new person you’ve become.
Tell more about some of the topics you cover on your page?
I love discussing sex after trauma, as well as self pleasure, self care and sexual coercion. Healing in general.
Why do you feel it’s so important to educate on these particular topics?
I believe that sex is a beautiful experience. Loving yourself is a beautiful experience. Sexual coercion is something that almost everyone has experienced at least once. Speaking about coercive control allows others to put a name to the things they’ve experienced in a relationship/friendship.
If you could give advice to a survivor of sexual violence, domestic violence or abuse what would it be?
Do whatever it takes to start healing. Finding many different ways to fall in love and trust yourself is very important. Choosing whether or not to report is completely your choice, and don’t feel bad for either decision you make. You may feel alone, but I promise, you’re not. There’s an army of people around the world who understand your experience and will support you in any way possible.
What advice do you have for someone that wants to help others heal?
Be yourself. Share what you truly believe in and be confident about it. You’d be surprised by the amount of people who are waiting for someone like you to share their story. Be willing to learn.
With #MeToo, what impact do you feel it has made and how has it impacted you?
#MeToo has allowed survivors from all over the world to build up courage to share their stories. The movement has definitely made me feel like I belonged somewhere. It gave me the opportunity to connect with other survivors.
Do you think is mental health is being addressed, in relation to rape survivors and in general, effectively in the US? Where do you think there's still room for improvement?
Mental health needs to be addressed at a higher level than it currently is because everyone reacts differently after being sexually assaulted. There literally needs to be a break down for every possible outcome. I definitely think that mental health involving sexual assault needs to be mandatory in grade school, along with sex education. It needs to become an everyday conversation.
How important do you feel it is to have a support system?
Having a support system is extremely important for a survivor to heal from their trauma. I find that having a support system gives you that extra boost to want to push through the pain.
What inspires you to keep going?
My happiness. I understand how REAL and common sexual assault is and the crazy impact it has on others and I want to help people find their own ways to heal.
When your not running Survivors of Color, what do you do? Any fun hobbies or interests?
I think I’m pretty boring, but I’m currently in the process of learning a new skill (crocheting). I want to be that mom or that person who crochets little beanies or stuffed animals as baby shower gifts.
What is exciting and upcoming for your page?
More emphasis on sex positivity & sex Ed for survivors
What do you hope someone takes away from your episode?
I hope at least one person is inspired by my story. I hope they’re able study themselves and figure out what makes them happy. I hope they understand that what happened to them doesn’t have to define the rest of their life.
What is the best way to get in touch with Survivors of Color?
As of right now, Email or DMs
What are your social media handles?
@survivorsofcolor Facebook & Instagram